Thursday, July 16, 2009

Ten Months - Forever Our Daughter


Today another month slips by, so quickly, ten months since Forever Family Day. Ten months since AA has had a Mommy, a Daddy, Brother and Sister. Plus all the loving family we have surrounding us, near and far.
We weren't the typical adoptive couple. We waited in the "referral/LID" line for 31 months; we weren't nervous holding AA for the first time, we were just so incredibly happy. We had "waited" 23 years to be exact; always talking about our next child, our first together; or about another child; when would the timing be right..... Somehow God had a sense of humor, waiting until we were both over 50.

I promised DH that after the 12 month mark, I would stop celebrating each month we have had AA; yes, it has been ten months to the day that we first held AA. Then I had to promise that after she turned 3 years old, I would stop counting her age in months (she's almost 34 months old now!). I thought that was what Mommy's did?

We will celebrate our Forever Family Day Anniversary's. Each one will be a new level of understanding for AA. Maybe we will talk about how much she means to us, to our family. Maybe we will ask family members to take one year of her life and be that special mentor, special connection to help her learn more about herself. Maybe we will help her write a journal of her favorite memories. Maybe we will ask her what she would like to learn about her homeland, her culture. Maybe we will light a candle for her birth parents and discuss that difficult subject.

We celebrate each day, in amazement that AA is our daughter, we celebrate each giggle, each new word, each successful step in her growth of language, we celebrate her laughter and how easy it is for her to love playing.
Daddy is home with her everyday, making sure she is cared for; fed, clothed, loved and hugged (and some dancing in the Publix aisles every other day, too).

We praise her each day, giving kisses and hugs and smiles.
We have such joy in our home.
All children deserve love and fun; a childhood.
We do know that having AA has given us less time to spend with our grown children and our granddaughters. We know that will change soon. But for now, it is all about AA's security, attachment, bonding, language development; it is her time to have all the attention and love she missed in the first 24 months of her life.

She deserves it.
Happy Ten Month Forever Family Day Anniversary AA!

17 comments:

Isabella's Mommy and Daddy said...

Happy 10 months..
Boy has she grown and blossomed over the 10 months..
You are a very blessed family..
LOVE the photos.. remember oh so well when you got these..
Hugs..
Have a great day...

Mama Duck said...

She really is blossoming. What a little beauty! So glad you're enjoying each day, each minute, each milestone. How quickly time flies...almost three years old!

a Tonggu Momma said...

What a beautiful post, Alyson. And it's amazing to see the changes in just 10 short months.

FinsUp said...

Happy anniversary and how wonderful you all found your way to each other!

Ruth and Brian said...

Amen, absolutely beautiful post!!! So hard to believe that 10 months have passed already.

Celebrating right along with you all.

Ruth and fam

Melissa said...

CELEBRATE w/Mom!!

Cora said...

such a sweet post. Happy 10 months! I can't beleive how much AA has grown in these last 10 months, she is such a beautiful little girl.

Donna said...

I never cease to be amazed at how much our kids change in their 'before' and 'after' photos. AA's eyes are so full of sparkle now!

Donna
Our Blog: Double Happiness!

Jewels of My Heart said...

She just takes my breath away....
I am so happy for your sweet family.... Thank you for sharing your story. I am 44 and in my heart I believe we have 3 more children waiting for us.... Sometimes my age scares me but it's God's timing and provisions not mine! Besides.... they keep us young.
Happy forever family day!

Carol said...

Beautiful post!

T n' W said...

Well said. These past 10 months have been a dream come true. And yes mommy's do do that:)

Happy Ten Months!

Lisa~~ said...

Congrats and happy 10 months FFD!

Dita said...

This post brought a tear to my eye. yes, this is AA's turn to have all your attention. I was there on forever family day and I can't believe how the time has flown. I for one can truly say...keep counting AA's age in months and keep celebrating EVERY single month.....you have such cause to celebrate! Your baby is beyond gorgeous and her life is so incredibly blessed to have both of you loving and wonderful parents by her side!

Jacquie said...

Happy Anniversary! Alyzabeth is truly a beautiful girl. She looks so happy with her family. Happy 10 months!

Vivian M said...

Happy 10 month anniversary as a family! It always is an "Aww" moment for me, and to see each child blossom is such a priviledge.
We celebrate every year. And we are fortunate that our travel group likes to get together for that anniversary. I can't wait to see what the next 10 months bring in your lives! (hugs)

Catherine said...

What a beautiful post celebrating the love you have for your amazing AA! She is absolutely precious and loved by so many but the very, very most by her mommy and daddy.

Congratulations friends as you celebrate this wonderful day...the day God placed AA in your arms and your family was increased with love 100 fold!

Julie said...

It seems like just yesterday- I so enjoyed reading about your journey. She's a beautiful girl and you're a great family!