Wednesday, July 29, 2009

It's Easy To Judge - If That's All You Do

We like to feature families presently In China Now on our blog sidebar.
Forever Family Day and all that goes in to making it happen is an unforgettable experience.

You would hope that everyone could share the joy and excitement these families are experiencing. Unfortunately, those who have adopted Internationally and those presently in The Wait know this is not always the case. Publicly sharing your journey opens you to the loving support of many and the harsh, often times, vile criticism of others.

Axis of Beebles follows the journey of a family bringing their 6 year old daughter home. A beautiful little girl challenged with multiple surgeries but a beautiful little girl who will be surrounded by the love of her Forever Family each step of the way...

I hesitated on linking the NY Times story about their journey. It's not the story. It's the comments left by a select few readers of the article. They are disturbing.
Try as I may, it takes every ounce of my being to contain my anger when those who in all likelihood have not adopted, take those of us who have, to task. How many times have I read or listened to people chastising Madonna for adopting and in my mind I am thinking; I'm not a huge Madonna fan but what are you doing to help a child? Are you adopting a foster child in America? Have you or are you in the process of adopting a child, foreign or domestic? Why is Madonna's and my decision to adopt more open to your critical review and rebuke than your decision to not adopt?

I'll stop. As is plain to see, I have my issues when it comes to "judging" those who have open their hearts to little ones. Adoptive families deserve no special accolades but they do deserve to experience and savor the immeasurable joy that comes from loving and raising their children. And as no two families are the same, neither are all families born from a single mold.

And that is a beautiful thing...
peace
fm

14 comments:

Mama Duck said...

Well said!

Cora said...

so true.

Vivian M said...

Ah yes, I remember those comments so well. Like the popular "Why China, why not here?" questions.
Some people just don't get it. It is their loss.
Very well said Ford. Amen.

redmaryjanes said...

Oh my word, I just got all worked up over there and left a comment myself!

Dale said...

You hit the nail on the head.

rubyiscoming said...

i heart you ford. well put. honestly, your post is another reminder why our blog went PRIVATE!

Sophia's Mama and Baba said...

Great post! So well said

bbmomof2boys said...

There are a lot of people in this world that have so much hate in their hearts they just have to spew it out to everyone. Its hard to keep my anger at bay too. I have to remember that these people will never know what we, as adoptive parents know!! All kids deserve to be loved, no matter where they come from or what color they are. Period. It's just that simple.

Hugs,
Carla

simply t said...

Well I just got myself all worked up reading those comments. I'm shocked. I don't understand the need to judge and especially anyone who has chosen to adopt from anywhere. I don't get it. Is there really that much ignorance running around in the world?
Well said Ford!

Inga said...

How rude people can be. I work for myself and a couple of months ago I got into a discussion w/ a client, she had seen me mailing a box, and knew that one day I was going to adopt. Anyway, she was like so many who said I think you should adopt from the US, there are kids here who need this and that, was really ugly about it. I FINALLY had enough of it and told her, since you seem to know so much and you seem to want to "open" your home, why dont you step out and adopt. That shut her up and I havent had that discussion again.

It is ashame how ugly people can be and if they don't have something nice to say, then why say anything at all!!!!!!!! I agree, people talk about Madonna and Angelina Jolie adopting, in my book that is one less child out there starving, hurting and longing for a familY!

Marsha Cruce said...

Well said indeed. People can be so mean and ignorant. I could not read all the comments because I got so mad.

Kristy said...

You dont have to stop, keep going , I think there are quite a few of us here who have your back!!!

Love and blessings, Kristy

Dita said...

Just one more reason to remind me why I have so little patience for these kind of people as I grow older....AND there are so many of them out there!

Karin said...

well said! I really like your last sentence. I think I'm going to head to my blog and put my thoughts on paper...