Thursday, August 21, 2008

IA Doctor Review

We debated this back and forth.
As to whether or not we would send Alyzabeth's photos and medical records off to a Doctor that specializes in International Adoptions and interpreting the records received with your referral.

In the end, after mulling it over with a fellow adoptee family we made the decision to do it, if for no other reason than our own peace of mind. AND in the event there were issues that needed to be addressed, we would have a head start in making the preparations to meet those needs. This was never a question about whether or not we were accepting the referral. We had already signed the paperwork declaring loud and clear; YES - Alyzabeth is our daughter!

Based on the recommendation from our friends referenced above, we used the Floating Hospital for Children at Tuff's Medical Center in Boston. In particular, we used Dr. Laurie Miller. We Expressed Mailed copies of our referral packet (photos, medical checkup, skill development assessment, etc) along with the donation followed by an email to Dr. Miller informing her of our request for an evaluation. We included the Express Mail tracking number. We also attached one photo of Alyzabeth to the email for identification purposes.

Dr. Miller responded immediately and we conducted the consultation by phone as I followed along from the original paperwork. She was kind, very matter of fact and allowed for questions without a sense of being hurried along. We will be receiving a followup packet from Dr. Miller in the mail.

So, are we recommending that other families do the same? No, not at all. We simply wanted to share what we did because we know many of you have the same questions and concerns that each of us share. We know there is considerable debate within the adoption community as to the value of these evaluations.
For us, we're glad we did it. We received a heads up on a few things to look for and a ringing endorsement from Dr. Miller. Call it peace of mind. Call it what you will.

We just know that we want time to rush by so we can bring Alyzabeth home...
peace
fm

15 comments:

Catherine said...

Peace of mind cannot have a pricetag to it. I'm glad you followed your heart and had Alyzabeth's file evaluated.

She's just so sweet and I cannot wait for the day when we see pics of her in your arms!!!

amy said...

thanks for sharing your decision!!! Wish we could have met in Orlando last week

Shane & Irma said...

That was a good thing to share. I hope this goes fast sot that like the person above mention. See pictures of your little angel in your arms..

Have a great day!

Isabella's Mommy and Daddy said...

I think it was a great decision..I am thinking I will do the same..
Thanks for sharing this experiance with us..
I can't wait to see Alyzabeth An in your arms...
Hugs..

Don and Be said...

We were fortunate to have the input of several medical pros at ORHS at the time of JM's. It did indeed put our minds at ease and at the same time, prepared us for things we could never have thought of on our own.

Hoping, praying that Fay leaves you unaffected.

Nina said...

Each of these steps is bringing you closer to Alyzabeth An... so exciting!

Hope that the storm stays far away.

m said...

You know me. I would have been there. I think it makes sense to be as prepared as possible. She is so adorable. I want to see her in both your arms too and will be happily waiting my turn to get to know our newest family member. My Mimi instincts are getting good vibes. :)
Hope your dock will be OK. Leaa told me if was taking a beating. Just raining here. Will that thing ever take off and move???

Ruthi said...

hi! I am a mom of a Nanchuan child! Actually I have touched your little girl and have sent you e-mails! Speedy travels...ask all the questions you want for the trip. Ruthi

Cupcakes and Hairbows said...

I just showed Ally the picture of Alyzabeth. She said, "Ally friend" and did the sign for friend! Isn't that just so cute?

Julia said...

I do not know if I ever commented your blog, but I follow a few China Adoption blogs and I wanted to tell you Alyzabeth is SO CUTE! 2 year olds are my favorite age! I hope all goes well! Happy Traveling!

OH MY #6 said...

How long before you will travel to pick her up?

Lea
xo

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

I think you made a smart decision....glad to hear everything went well!

Lisa

sarah said...

Yay - one more step in being ready for her!

'All rivers lead to the sea'. . . what's important is finding the path that works best for your family's journey - 'peace of mind' and being most prepared definitely included!!

Anonymous said...

Ford and Aly,

Thanks so much for posting this. I think it is a wonderful idea and I want to do it too. I agree, it has nothing to do with whether you accept her as your daughter or not, she is already yours. It is just more information, which I think is always good.

Dana
(Panda)

Kelly & Sindy said...

First I want to say congrats on
your beautiful Daughter's referral
I'm so HAPPY FOR YOUR FAMILY!!!!
We were out of town and just
returned a few days ago. I'm so
happy to see you were matched!!!

I wish you all the HAPPINESS IN
THE WORLD!!!!

Hugs,

Sindy, Kelly and Allie